The Essentials of Tips – Revisited

Parents and Their Tweens

When children are in the age group of nine and eleven years, they are called the pre-teens or tweens. This age group is still emotionally dependent upon their parents. Tweens still look up to their parents as their role models. If parents choose healthy nutritional foods and an active lifestyle, their children also have the same choices of food and activities. And if parents spend the weekend on a couch munching chips, chances are their tweens are also the type who do not want outdoor activities and spend a great amount of time watching TV and playing computer games. Increased fast food consumption and lack of strong physical activity is the reason why there are many obese adults and children.

There is an emotional link between tweens and their peers. In order to find acceptance with your peers, you have to be like them, act like them. They have a strong emphasis on ‘group think. Tweens are still very much a part of their families and have no intention or desire to be independent from them. Parents should take advantage of this dependence upon them and should encourage their pre teens to go out and join activities that are beneficial. They should be taught about their obligations to serve others. They should be encouraged to join groups such as church groups, volunteer organizations, and scouting experiences so that they can have opportunities to be of service to others. Their life routine should include outings with the family and sharing with responsibilities at home like doing chores. This is an age where they are not as egocentric as when they were smaller and so helping others would give them pleasure.

Preventable injuries is the leading cause of death in tween years. Deaths of tweens are usually caused be auto accidents and non-auto accidents which can include accidents in bikes, falls, drowning, and others. There are also cases of tween suicides but these constitute only a small percentage of death causes. Almost half of deaths on this age group are preventable. While peer pressure is very strong and can put a tween to action, a stern and solemn word from a parent is enough for them not to follow the group’s consensus. An example would be a tween group think which says that they should not wear a helmet when riding a bike, can be over ruled by a parent’s command to wear a helmet if they want to ride their bikes.

Tweens can also be victims of the pervasive and potential corrupting effect of the Internet. The issues that parents should discuss with their pre-teens regarding the use of Internet are the following: inappropriate websites, social media sites like face book and others, and its general overuse. Parents should limit the contents that tweens are exposed to online. Parents should schedule hours of internet use. And parents should also be regularly monitoring what their children are doing on the Internet.